While in a client meeting, brainstorming ideas for a major fundraiser event, I had a realization- All things are possible. As we discussed what the client wanted- a fun, classy atmosphere that encouraged networking and check writing- a negative kept re-occuring; the HOW. They wanted big names, celebrities, big entertainment but had a small budget (it is a fundraiser). I politely interrupted the committee I am leading and shared with them my realization- Anything Is Possible! Whatever can be imagined, there is some way to at least ask the question. Early in business, I learned "The question you don't ask, can't get answered". Once I got them thinking, they began to throw out ideas of contacts, networks, social media outlets, businesses, and more that we can collaborate with to make the fundraiser a legendary kickoff event. Later that night, I came across an article of a celebrity chef from the Food Network that overcame depression and achieved success. My clients are advocates for changing the stigmas of mental health issues; the chef overcame a mental health issue and travels sharing her story. She can easily be reached and invited to the fundraiser...coincidence? I think not. Example of possibility? I think so.
No matter what a situation looks like, there is always possibility. Today marks the six year anniversary of a great friend opening the doors to his first sandwich shop. He sold 9 sandwiches the first day. He lost his first location, was forced to sell 2 locations to afford to re-open the original location in SF, he had nights he went to bed hungry, slept in someone's van, and had very little money keeping the business afloat, but every night before he fell asleep, he told himself 'Tomorrow, things will be different'. He believed in the possibility of success, the possibility of being able to have 11 sandwich shop locations, having his own soda brand, the possibility of being featured on the Travel Chanel, of winning numerous awards & achievements, and most importantly, he believed- anything is possible. I am excited and feel blessed for the opportunity (just got the call last night) to plan his engagement party! See, I too believe that anything is possible. I didn't know how it would happen, how business would expand, or if I would even be good enough...but I knew anything is possible. Life is full of endless possibilities...
We can be our own worst enemy. We have all had our share of "haters", those we believe are jealous of our successes and "hate" on us because of it. Some people claim to be motivated by "haters"; feeling a sense of drive to achieve more success so the hater has more to hate on. Some people allow the negativity of the "hater" to affect them so much that they no longer are motivated toward any kind of success...they would rather be a fly on the wall than be noticed by anyone. These two reactions to "haters" are on completely different spectrum's, but what do we do when it's our own mind that's the hater? How do we handle our own "hater"? If you are thinking to yourself that you have no idea what I am talking about; that's exactly what I am talking about. You know, the voice in our heads that tell us all kinds of reasons why or why not. It's the same voice that allows us to make excuses. The funny thing is, sometimes the voice even encourages us to make excuses why we can't do the very thing we need to do.
I believe everyone wants to be a well balanced, fully charged, person. They want their reputation to be clean, their character to be attractive, they want to be thought of as a good friend, a caring person, loyal, trustworthy, honest, reliable, and dependable (if you don't believe most people want to be viewed this way, call a friend, neighbor, or relative and tell them they aren't these things, and then count how many examples they give you that prove they are this person and note the hostility in their voice). But sometimes our inner voice, our inner "hater", encourages us and gives reason why not to be that well balanced person. For example, we all know our elders will come to an age of passing at some point. When it happens, people usually say they wish they had visited more and spent more time. That said, how many of us (especially my fellow Generation Y'ers) buy our inner "haters" excuse that we can't visit- because we are too busy, have too much going on, have "business" to handle, etc.? Why is that? We know we can't get the time back and will be saddened by the passing, yet we allow ourselves to make the excuse that we don't have time? As if whatever we are dealing with is more important than spending precious moments with our legacy. Or what about when we have a friend in need. All they need is just a few moments of friendship to get them through a tough moment or situation, yet our inner "hater" replies for us with the excuse that again, we simply don't have time, yet we want to be looked at as caring and dependable (challenge anyone on this and watch their entire being change).
But what if it's you? What about when you become the elder or the friend in need? What if everyone around you allowed their little hater inside, their own worst enemy, to reply for them, giving the reasons and excuses why they can't, when they know they should? Think about it. How does it feel? I would bet 99.9% of people would say that is doesn't feel good. Then my question is: Why? Why do we treat people we care about, that way? Why are we not able to control our inner hater more, so that we can be the total person we strive to be? Time is precious. We can never get back the opportunity to do something we wish we had or to be the person we wished we could be. Pay attention to your inner "hater". Make sure you agree with the excuses it gives you before you make a decision to follow. It's never to late to start being the person you want to be, instead of buying the reasons you can't be. Today is the first day of the rest of your life...
When preparing to construct a building, the architects design the foundation but the builders create it. They build a solid foundation and constantly check for any flaws before they begin construction on the remainder of the building. If the foundation is weak or flawed, the building will eventually crumble.
In Las Vegas, a new building was being constructed. They laid the foundation, checked it, and proceeded to build. Other construction workers got on site and began inspecting the process, along with the foundation. They found cracks deep down in the foundation with water leaking through. This wouldn't have been a big deal to fix, had they caught the problem early. At this point, the structural beams were already placed, the building was taking shape. Needless to say, the potential building, that was given a billion dollar budget, was torn down and re-construction has not yet resumed.
That was a building. The flaws in the foundation were easy to detect and a potential disaster was avoidable. But what about our foundation? How often do we check it for cracks? Do we even know who the architect was that designed our foundation? Some of you may be saying that it's you; you designed the foundation upon which you stand. But think about it...how long ago was your foundation created? Some of us may have great parents, who instilled great principles and philosophies into our foundation, while some of us may not have been that lucky. We may be holding onto negatives in our subconscious that will eventually cause our foundation to crack.
Take a moment to think back to your earliest childhood memory. What do you see, what do you hear, how do things look? Now, think about your life today, what do you do currently that is a reflection of something you just remembered from your childhood? It may be positive or negative, but whatever it is, are you happy with it? Will the behavior serve you in the future you want? This is a very small activity to help you get in tune with your subconscious and to begin understanding where certain philosophies and behaviors come from.
If you felt great about that activity, congratulations! You probably have a solid foundation. However, if you felt bad or even a little uncomfortable, its okay. Unlike the building in Las Vegas, you can repair your foundation. You don't have to live with cracks. You can construct a solid foundation for yourself- one that sustains movement, pressure, cracks, and weaknesses.
I'm sure you are wondering how to do this now that I have you excited to the possibility. First, become in tune with your subconscious. Pay attention to behaviors and where they come from. Second, be careful of the information you allow to get into your head. Read and listen to positive things; you will see a shift in your outlook over time. Third, be aware of your associations. Some people will serve your old philosophies and keep you captive to them. Others will support the change you are looking to make. It's tough; not everyone can sit at the table of your life, but it's okay. You don't have to loose someone you care about, you just have to limit the time because you care about yourself more.
Good luck and continue to inspect (and re-inspect) your foundation.
This is it! I have found my passion in the best industry! I am supposed to be here! When I decided to become an event planner, I thought it was just a decision I was making consciously. However, as I tapped into my subconscious, I realized I have been preparing for this my entire life. As I traced the memories back to my childhood, I remembered that my mother used to host amazing parties, focusing on every detail effortlessly. I would help her purchase decorations and put everything in its proper place. In middle school,I joined student government simply to add more social events for students. In high school,I hosted a festival and coordinated a fashion show. In college,I co-hosted poetry sessions, lectures, festivals, and parties. Understanding how the universe works, it is of no surprise that I am doing exactly what I was destin to do. It's only the beginning...
When you become very clear about what you want, life will start to move in the direction toward that which you want...but in order to achieve 100% results, you must give 100% intention toward the goal. There are endless options of mechanisms to use to achieve the intended results, but without solid intention and action, nothing will be achieved. I talked for years about creating an event planning business, giving myself reasons why "Now" was not the right time- lack of experience, no proof of events, time, etc. Then I simply decided it was time. None of that "stuff" mattered. I created a name, did the paperwork to make it official, and started branding myself as an event planner. A few weeks later, I was asked (with two days notice) to create centerpieces for a large dinner, assist on a major conference, and lead a movie premier. It has continued from that point, growing organically. I am excited as I am taking the next steps to really launch my already profitable business...with 100% intention. Stay tuned...
As an event planner, the opportunities to unleash ones creativity and talents can come in many different forms. Recently, I was blessed with the opportunity to assist my best friend with the beginning process of planning her wedding. Not only was it exciting because it's her, but it made me realize how much I loved what I do! Since my best friend was subjected to all my ideas as I was planning my own wedding, and was a huge part in making my dream day come together, just like the diagrams I created, for her wedding, I want to make sure she gets everything she imagined but that they also don't go in to debt because of it. I pride myself of creating beautiful and practical alternatives to the traditional wedding decor. We have only just began the planning process, but the joy that it has brought me to do what I love for a couple I love, is beyond any words. This lovely adventure to be continued...