We can be our own worst enemy. We have all had our share of "haters", those we believe are jealous of our successes and "hate" on us because of it. Some people claim to be motivated by "haters"; feeling a sense of drive to achieve more success so the hater has more to hate on. Some people allow the negativity of the "hater" to affect them so much that they no longer are motivated toward any kind of success...they would rather be a fly on the wall than be noticed by anyone. These two reactions to "haters" are on completely different spectrum's, but what do we do when it's our own mind that's the hater? How do we handle our own "hater"? If you are thinking to yourself that you have no idea what I am talking about; that's exactly what I am talking about. You know, the voice in our heads that tell us all kinds of reasons why or why not. It's the same voice that allows us to make excuses. The funny thing is, sometimes the voice even encourages us to make excuses why we can't do the very thing we need to do.
I believe everyone wants to be a well balanced, fully charged, person. They want their reputation to be clean, their character to be attractive, they want to be thought of as a good friend, a caring person, loyal, trustworthy, honest, reliable, and dependable (if you don't believe most people want to be viewed this way, call a friend, neighbor, or relative and tell them they aren't these things, and then count how many examples they give you that prove they are this person and note the hostility in their voice). But sometimes our inner voice, our inner "hater", encourages us and gives reason why not to be that well balanced person. For example, we all know our elders will come to an age of passing at some point. When it happens, people usually say they wish they had visited more and spent more time. That said, how many of us (especially my fellow Generation Y'ers) buy our inner "haters" excuse that we can't visit- because we are too busy, have too much going on, have "business" to handle, etc.? Why is that? We know we can't get the time back and will be saddened by the passing, yet we allow ourselves to make the excuse that we don't have time? As if whatever we are dealing with is more important than spending precious moments with our legacy. Or what about when we have a friend in need. All they need is just a few moments of friendship to get them through a tough moment or situation, yet our inner "hater" replies for us with the excuse that again, we simply don't have time, yet we want to be looked at as caring and dependable (challenge anyone on this and watch their entire being change).
But what if it's you? What about when you become the elder or the friend in need? What if everyone around you allowed their little hater inside, their own worst enemy, to reply for them, giving the reasons and excuses why they can't, when they know they should? Think about it. How does it feel? I would bet 99.9% of people would say that is doesn't feel good. Then my question is: Why? Why do we treat people we care about, that way? Why are we not able to control our inner hater more, so that we can be the total person we strive to be? Time is precious. We can never get back the opportunity to do something we wish we had or to be the person we wished we could be. Pay attention to your inner "hater". Make sure you agree with the excuses it gives you before you make a decision to follow. It's never to late to start being the person you want to be, instead of buying the reasons you can't be. Today is the first day of the rest of your life...